Stop avoiding sexuality work.
A friend and I were talking today about how sexuality is still SO taboo in so many wellness and self-development spaces - and how people can work for years on themselves never really looking at their sexuality and relational patterns...
So many workshops, retreats, practitioners offering great work - but work that actively avoids looking at or speaking to the role of sexuality in our lives.
Or practitioners who haven't integrated their sexuality and their sexual shadow that bring murky dynamics to their space holding.
As sexuality is undoubtedly one of THE biggest shadows we hold collectively, it feels like we're missing a key piece of the puzzle here.
"You can only get so far in your healing journey without really looking at your sexuality and getting real about what's there..."
This looks like being willing to see the shadow and the confusion, to go into the disconnection you feel from your own body, your pleasure, your ability to communicate what you want and need - and to use this information to learn more about yourself and what you need to focus on.
Generally speaking, this isn't a personal 'fault' of ours individually, but a direct result of a heavily conditioned, sex-negative upbringing and society, where sexuality has been disregarded, shamed, seen as sinful and pushed out of our conscious awareness.
Most of us were raised on p0rn culture as the primary education for our sexual understanding - and the dynamics we witnessed in p0rn of domination, violence against women, a lack of boundaries or any communication at all, of the 'sexual script' of 'foreplay, penetration, orgasm' - are the dynamics that have shaped most people's experiences throughout their life.
And don't even get me started on religion...
So, as people are stepping deeper into their healing journey, and so many are taking up work as space-holders in this incredibly powerful age of consciousness evolution - I would really like to see MORE integration of sexuality and sexuality-awareness in self-development spaces.
Mostly so that the sexual shadow doesn't continue being perpetuated, so that we can begin to restore sexuality to it's natural place in our lives, bodies & energy systems - to experience it as the powerful life force it is, rather than this shadowy thing we avoid and that UNDOUBTEDLY will come out in sideways ways if not addressed.
And as individuals, to really start looking at how your sexuality works, functions and feels in your own system - and how you can seek spaces where this work is being done, so you don't have to do it alone.
In response to this lack of education on sexuality as life force, Aimie Duggan and I have created an online 8-week journey called 'The Aliveness Codes' to fill these gaps.
We focus on trauma-informed yogic practices, sexuality teachings and movement through the lens of the seven chakras to provide a comprehensive system to understand yourself and your connections better.
Each week we offer a 2.5h class exploring practices and teaching that will form the foundation for a life governed by healthier and more informed relationships - and how we can use sexuality as a fast-track to incredible personal healing.
We begin 16th Feb.
Love, Ria x
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